Highly Sensitive People (HSP’s)
I have been working with HSP’s since starting out in private practice over 16 years ago. HSP’s make up around 20% of the population but it is only over the last few years that it has really come into the public domain. It is a form of neurodivergence.
Highly Sensitive People
HSP’s process information very deeply. This can be environmental or emotional information. This can lead to a deep connection with others and with nature (given the right conditions) but HSP’s can also be easily overstimulated. This can lead to burn out, anxiety, low mood and often self-blame; HSP’s often asking themselves why they are different to others. HSP’s are sensitive to environmental stimuli (loud noises, strong smells, bright lights etc). They can be both introvert or extrovert and are very affected by both scenes of suffering and distress (HSPS can often avoid films etc and media depicting this kind of content) but can also be moved deeply (often to tears) by beauty, nature, the arts etc. HSPS have often had a childhood where they have been described as quiet, too sensitive etc. They have a very high capacity for empathy (some research suggesting they have more ‘mirror neurons’ than neurotypicals and can also be overwhelmed by the very strong emotions of others).
Some researchers use a flower metaphor to describe differing levels of sensitivity. A dandelion personality is the least affected by external conditions and can grow well in difficult conditions. A Tulip personality is more sensitive; not as robust as a Dandelion but not as sensitive as an Orchid. An HSP would be designated as an Orchid; needing a specific environment to thrive but capable of developing into a deep thinking, compassionate and beautiful personality if the conditions are right.
We live in a very overstimulating society and this can be tough to navigate for an HSP.
Often the work with an HSP will be around managing the capacity to be overwhelmed but also creating a life where the many benefits of the personality type can be facilitated. HSP's process all information on an extremely deep level and this can be advantageous or present difficulty - depending on the situation.
In family systems HSPS can often have a history of being the peacemaker, diplomat and emotionally regulating and holding emotions for others in the family. This can lead to a disconnection with their own needs.
HSP’s are affected very deeply by the suffering of others and the environmental emergency. Having a safe space to share this pain can be very helpful.
Additional Resources
Further information, HSP tests and research around Highly Sensitive People can be found at the links below:
Get In Touch
Please do get in touch if you are an HSP, suspect you may be or are in relationship with a highly sensitive person and would like to know more about the type.
HSP’s wishing to come along with their partners for couples counselling are also most welcome.